Tinder Date

Last night I went on a Tinder date with someone a lot younger than me. He said the following things:"I bet you were pretty 20 years ago." "You look good, for your age." "You look the same now, except for the wrinkles" - when I showed him a photo of me 20 years ago. Ouch …

My Rebirth-day

A year ago today I was in an AA Big Book study with my sponsor. We were reading page 31 of the book. I read the sentence "Through every form of self-deception and experimentation, they would try to prove themselves exceptions to the rule, therefore nonalcoholic." My sponsor asked me if I had been deceiving …

Trust Fall

On December 21, 2020, at 12 midnight, my job of 12 1/2 years gave me shocking news: that if I did not move back to the US from overseas where I'd been working for 8 years, that I would no longer have a job. On top of that, they wanted me to start working in …

“Even though” and “Still”: A Path to Unconditional Love

All types of love share common themes, whether it is romantic love, familial love, or love between friends. One of the biggest themes is expectation. Where there is love, there is expectation due to the roles people take on when the label of love is applied. However, expectation is the opposite of love. Expectation binds, …

Pick Your Brain

Have you ever noticed how you can react to the same situation in different ways, depending on the day? It is most easily apparent in your close relationships. One day, the way your husband loads the dishwasher annoys you so much you go behind him and re-load it; the next, you don't give it a …

Then / Now

Then My eyelids are heavy and they don’t want to open. Yet the stark light is insistent, telling me that it’s late. I turn away from the window onto my right side. My left temple’s throbbing intensifies, an unwelcome reminder of last night’s overindulgence.  My whole body feels like it’s encased in lead. I want …